The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it's giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.
We, humans, have the luxury of being able to have thoughts about our thoughts.
The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires.
The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering.
People get addicted to feeling offended all the time because it gives them a high: being self-righteous and morally superior feels good.
Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different. No matter where you go, there’s a five-hundred-pound load of shit waiting for you. And that’s perfectly fine. The point is not to get away from the shit but to find the shit you enjoy dealing with.
Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about. Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what's truly fuckworthy.
Practical enlightenment is becoming comfortable with the idea that some suffering is always inevitable.
Emotions are simply biological signals designed to nudge you in the direction of beneficial change. Negative emotions are often call to action. When you feel them, it's because you're supposed to do something.
Start loving the struggle, the process, the fight and keep rewards, results, and victory for later.
Who you are is defined by what you're willing to struggle for.
BONUS LESSONS.
👉The ‘Do Something’ philosophy hit me the hardest. It says that motivation may lead to action but actions itself can lead to subsequent motivation too. You do something, anything, and motivation flows from there. Don’t just think but start taking small steps. It will work out.
👉Embracing Russian Philosophy: ‘The Power of Authentic Expression.’ Russian philosophy teaches us to break free from Western politeness norms and embrace genuine self-expression. Russians live authentically and don’t have the anxiety that comes from not speaking our brains out.
Book Review
👉 One of the best no-BS self-help books. The tone is set in witty candor throughout the book.
👉 One of the top 5 books I would recommend to a self-help book skeptic.
👉You take what you want (which is probably everything) The book is full of hard-hitting quotes. There’s a 100 % chance that it will strike a nerve in your subconscious.
👉It’s screaming to drill in your head to give a f*ck to things that matter, is immediate and important, and choose life as you want.
I have intended to read this book FOREVER, so I appreciate you sharing such a concise summation of the major takeaways! My favorite is the one about emotions. They're simply messengers, or alarm bells, as I like to call them. Recognizing them as such is a massive step in detaching from identification with your emotions. Until you capture that truth, you can't expect to be in control of them. I look forward to reading more!
Such great key lessons from this book🤌🤌✨️